And That's Why You're Single

Posted: 01 Nov 2013 08:03 AM PDT

Posted: 31 Oct 2013 03:20 PM PDT

Name: Ssrah
Comment: I’ve been communicating with a guy on and off for 6 months through dating site. He works abroad and our contact has become daily and nightly with long phone calls. He’s Respectful, kind, thoughtful and keen for us to meet and hopefully take it to the next level if mutual attraction is there.
My issue is this… I have a fake profile set up on same dating site… Due to a cheating ex. I got chatting to Him as this fake person and got him into sex talk. I know, I know. He’s very into sex with fake woman, but he’s very Respectful of real me.
Whats real and not? Or is neither real?
Age: 45
City: MIDDLESBROUGH
State: Cleveland

Forget about his stories about traveling abroad and time differences and the like. They’re excuses, if not bold faced lies. If he’s so keen for you to meet then why, in six months, hasn’t he met you? That’s what you should be asking yourself. Frankly, I have to question why and how you’re still participating in this and what you get from it and whether or not you actually want a relationship. This thing you have right now is warm and safe and poses no threat. Maybe that’s why you keep engaging this guy?

As for your little experiment, I just can’t. You didn’t set up that profile because of a cheating ex. You set up that profile because you are inherently mistrustful and don’t trust your own judgment. You know something about this isn’t right, but rather than cut it off, you’ll keep it going. You’d rather hope against hope than face the reality of the situation. You’re only making things worse for yourself. You need to find other ways to satisfy your need for connection, attention,and affection.

I would suggest, though, that you enjoy being sexual with this guy and are possibly using your little experiment to take things to that kind of level. You’re probably afraid that that might send the wrong message. That’s understandable. But don’t put yourself on a pedestal and think that he somehow values you more than Fake Woman. You have no proof of that. For all you know, he thinks Fake Woman is a hell of a lot more fun. You’re assuming that Fake Woman is a “slut” and therefore no guy could possibly respect her.

That’s an interesting inner dialogue you have going on there. Do you how you’re contradicting yourself? There you are engaging in a sexual e-lationship with someone and clearly enjoying it or else you wouldn’t keep doing it. Yet, at the same time, you still are holding on to the belief that only slutty women or women that men don’t respect behave that way. You may wish to reconcile those two thoughts.

Thoughts?

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