And That's Why You're Single

Guys Aren’t Always Trying Desperately To Get In Your Pants

Posted: 01 May 2014 01:10 PM PDT

Alias (DO NOT USE A REAL NAME!!): Still online

Comment: At my age (64) and dating men mainly in their later 60′s and 70′s I would have thought that they wouldn’t be popping blue pills before dinner was over…………Someone in their mid 70′s who expects and trys to have sex on the first date eliminates the possibility of a second date for me. I’m tired of making excuses and fighting off men and then having them tell me something is wrong with me! I don’t want sex with men whom I am not beginning a relationship. I want to know them; a chance to really WANT them……….then when they have a difficult time they expect you to do all of the work and act as if it’s your fault………they’re in their mid-70′s. Life moves on……………if I’m in a monogamous relationship GREAT……..if not I won’t sleep with someone who might be sleeping with other women the same week.
Age: 64
City: Scottsdale
State: AZ

I see. So, you will only have sex with men who are monogamous to you. Okay, well, how is that working out for you?

Sleep with them or don’t. I don’t have an opinion either way. I’ve addressed this scenario more times than I care to count. I’ll short hand it for you:

Assuming that every dude who buys you a cocktail and a sandwich is just out for sex probably isn’t the wisest approach. This way of thinking becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. You associate any man who shows interest in sex as a lech just trying to get in your pants when maybe he likes you and wants to have sex with you. By disqualifying any guy who shows any kind of physical interest, you end up throwing the baby out with the bathwater. Stop judging every guy just because he wants to do something that lots and lots of people love to do, sometimes with strangers. It’s sex. He’s not asking you to rob a bank with him. Instead of running away because the guy wants to get it on, say no and then set up another date with him. You’re not sticking around long enough to determine what these men are truly after. Give the guy a chance to prove himself one way or another before you reject him.

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